I am learning about some interesting concepts and philosophies that help families handle their frenzied schedules. A lot of us do more “car-schooling” than “homeschooling.” In our area there are so many activities to choose from – field trips, classes, meetups, clubs, co-ops – and we want our kids to experience whatever they are interested in. You can find yourself running ragged.
For me, this means trying to fit in some basic academics along with all the fun stuff available, plus classes and social activities for my tween and teen.
If this describes you, here are a couple of articles that may help restore some balance.
NATURAL PARENTS NETWORK: STEP BY STEP GUIDE TO CREATING FAMILY RHYTHM
A lot of parents have difficulty distinguishing between a schedule, a routine, and rhythm. Schedules are harsh, rigid, and demanding and center on the concept of “at.” (We take nap at 3:00). A routine is a typical pattern with some uncertainty and centers on the concepts of “sometimes” and “usually.” (We usually take naps by 3:00, but our day usually falls apart at some point so sometimes we do not get a nap). Rhythm is a flow where B happens after A and C comes before D. Rhythm is natural and organic. The key to rhythm is that it centers on the concept of “around.” (We take a nap around 3:00). It molds around the lifestyle already in place for a family. Rhythm helps children know what comes next in their day and often allows them to make an easy transition to the next activity or anchor point. Rhythm helps parents stay committed to their to-do list in a way that allows for flexibility and much less stress. When you practice a healthy rhythm, you can more easily see and adapt to big changes or shifts that may occur. READ MORE
JAMES CLEAR: FORGET ABOUT SETTING GOALS. FOCUS ON THIS INSTEAD.
…It all comes down to the difference between goals and systems…
Choosing a goal puts a huge burden on your shoulders. Can you imagine if I had made it my goal to write two books this year? Just writing that sentence stresses me out.
But we do this to ourselves all the time. We place unnecessary stress on ourselves to lose weight or to succeed in business or to write a best-selling novel. Instead, you can keep things simple and reduce stress by focusing on the daily process and sticking to your schedule, rather than worrying about the big, life-changing goals. Read more
As I look around my house at all the things that haven’t gotten done, these philosophies remind me that it’s not about the to-do list and the big goals, but about finding a healthy rhythm for my family and putting systems in place that will help support our lifestyle.
I hope you find some inspiration in this!